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*LOVE...for Husband and Wife*

Sunday, March 12th 2006
IFGF Gisi KA 1 Sarbini
Ps. Daniel Runtuwene

This month we will focus on building Family under God's dominion
So, today is the 2nd part of the message which will focus on the couple, husband-wife

This message basically about LOVE, not just for married couple, but also for those
whos getting married and even for singles, those who oneday will enter the marriage life..

LOVE...for Husband and Wife

FOR HUSBAND : Love your wife

1. Provide Headship / Leadership

1 Corintians 11:3
But it is important for you to keep this fact in mind, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Christ is God.

Eph 5:23
The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church,
not by domineering but by cherishing.

The husband must provide the quality of leadership in family but not a dictatorship.
Just be the leader in simple things such as pray for your child everyday, speak blessings upon them,
read the bible often, be the channel of God's word to your wife / family

2. Provide protection

Col 3:19
A husband must love his wife and not abuse her.

1Pe 3:7
If you are a husband, you should be thoughtful of your wife.
Treat her with honor, because she isn't as strong as you are, and she shares with you in the gift of life. Then nothing will stand in the way of your prayers.

You must not correct your wife in the public, talk to her after you're home,
and as a father you also dont stand against your wife in order to please your child's heart

3. Ministering to your woman

Eph 5:25
Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church--a love marked by giving, not getting.

There is a survey result on how people feel happy, joyful and be loved, there are 5 reasons:
- receiving gift
- receiving compliment
- receiving service
- receiving touch
- receiving time/attention
so just find our what's the best thing to make your wife happy and do it frequently.

Learn to serve your wife based on your love to God.

FOR WIFE : Love Your Husband

1. Provide Submission

1Pe 3:1
In the same way you wives must submit yourselves to your husbands,
so that if any of them do not believe God's word, your conduct will win them over to believe. It will not be necessary for you to say a word,

Col 3:18
Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, for that is what you should do as Christians.

Naturally woman can speak 25% more than man, it happen since the childhood.
So woman must learn to be patient, obedience, self-control and humble heart to your husband.

2. Provide Help and Support (and also understanding)

Eph 5:22
Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ.

woman must have a grateful spirit, don't bring burden to your husband, don't expose your husband weaknesses
in the public, you must support and respect him.

3. Ministering to your man

1Pe 3:1
The same goes for you wives: Be good wives to your husbands, responsive to their needs. There are husbands who, indifferent as they are to any words about God, will be captivated

Pro 31:12
She comforts, encourages and does him only as long as there is life within her.

woman must serve your husband..

Finally i believe this message will open our heart to understand more about how to become God's chosen man and woman
this also will help us to enjoy your relationship..for those who are married, getting married or plan to get married oneday..

God bless you all...

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